I haven 't written much about submission or adapting this week. My husband is out of town so I'm not feeling very challenged. I just can't wait to talk to him everyday. But, I can remember a time, not too many years ago, that I didn't want to talk to him and he didn't want to talk to me. And I didn't know he was kind, peaceful or could ever be the man he is today. But, that's a story for another day and I'm still praying about sharing all of the gory details but in the mean time I can tell you that my Father has transformed my husband and ME. I know that has alot to do with The Power of a Praying Wife by Stormie Omartian.
When I stumbled across this incredible book, I was a believer but I hadn't yet become a worshiper because I hadn't been a witness to His miracles. So, I was in the Family Christian Store one day, only because it was close to where I worked and I could go walk around in between clients. I saw the title and thought that I needed someone to tell me how to gain some power of my husband and so I picked up the book. Much to my surprise/dismay Mrs. Stormie didn't tell me how to ask God to show me how to make him do whatever I wanted. The first chapter is all about letting the Father take control of your heart and changing YOU! Stormie says, "The point is not who needs to change. The point is who is willing to change."
Anyway, at this point in my walk I wasn't convinced that my Father cared about my marriage and had been convinced that I had somehow cursed it. But, this, Stormie Omartian was pretty convincing so I thought I would give it a shot. I started to read. I started to pray. I only had to take one step towards my Father and He lifted me into His arms and for the next year and a half carried me while I prayed. I prayed without much faith. But that's the great thing about this book, she walks you through pray His will.
If you don't know how to pray for your husband, whether your marriage is great or you need a miracle, this book is for you. I would like to take this journey again. I would like for you to come with me. That is why I'm
Every Sunday I'll post a prayer from the book, and we can pray that prayer for our husbands all week. My hope is that you will encounter God this week and leave a comment with a testimony to encourage others. Here is the first prayer:
Lord, Help me to be a good wife. I fully realize that I don't have what it takes to be one without your help. Take my selfishness, impatience, and irritability and turn them into kindness, long-suffering, and the willingness to bear all things. Take my old emotional habits, mindsets, automatic reactions, rude assumptions, and self protective stance, and make me patient, kind, good, faithful, gentle, and self-controlled. Take the hardness of my heart and break down the walls with your battering ram of revelation. Give me a new heart and work in me Your love, peace, and joy ( Galatians 5:22-23). I am not able to rise above who I am at this moment. Only You can transform me.
Show me where there is sin in my heart, especially with regard to my husband. I confess the times I've been unloving, critical, angry, resentful, disrespectful, or unforgiving toward him. Help me to put aside any hurt, anger, or disappointment I feel and forgive him the way You do- totally and completely, no looking back. Make me a tool of reconciliation, peace, and healing in this marriage. Enable us to communicate well and rescue us from the thresh hold of separation where the realities of divorce begin.
Make me my husband's help mate, companion, champion, friend, and support. Help me to create a peaceful, restful, safe place for him to come home to. Teach me how to take care of myself and stay attractive to him. Grow me into a creative and confident woman who is rich in mind, soul, and spirit. Make me the kind of woman he can be proud to say is his wife.
I lay all my expectations at Your cross. I release my husband from the burden of fulfilling me in areas where I should be looking to You. Help me to accept him the way he is and not try to change him. I realize that in some ways he may never change, but at the same time, I release him to change in ways I never thought he could. I leave any changing that needs to be done in Your hands, fully accepting that neither of us is perfect and never will be. Only You, Lord, are perfect and I look to You to perfect us.
Teach me how to pray for my husband and make my prayers a true language of love. Where love has died, create new love between us. Show me what unconditional love really is and how to communicate it in a way he can clearly perceive. Bring unity between us so that we can be in agreement about everything (Amos 3:3). May the God of patience and comfort grant us us to be like-minded toward one another, according to Christ Jesus (Romans 15:5). Make us a team, not pursuing separate, competitive, or independent lives, but working together, overlooking each other's faults and weaknesses for the greater good of the marriage. Help us to pursue the things which make for peace and the things by which one may edify another (Romans 14:19). May we be "perfectly joined together in the same mind and in the same judgment" (1 Corinthians 1:10).
I pray that our commitment to You and to one another will grow stronger and more passionate every day. Enable him to be the head of the home as You made him to be, and show me how to support and respect him as he rises to that place of leadership. Help me to understand his dreams and see things from his perspective. Reveal to me what he wants and needs and show me potential problems before they arise. Breathe your life into this marriage. Make me a new person, Lord. Give me a fresh perspective, a positive outlook, and a renewed relationship with the man You've given me. help me see him with new eyes, new appreciation, new love, new compassion, and new acceptance. Give my husband a new wife and let it be me.
There you go... powerful stuff. I really suggest you get the book and follow along with me. There's alot more great content for you to read inside.